SHE DESERVED TO BE RAPED?

A few days ago I was at a store not too far from where I live, and I overheard two guys, and a woman talking about another woman that accused a guy of raping her. I can tell that they didn’t believe her, it also seemed as if they personally knew this woman. The woman said that the girl was a liar and an attention whore. That is when one of the men said, "She is always dressing like a whore; if it did happen she probably led him on."

Lately, I have been hearing plenty of men saying that women deserve to be disrespected if they wear revealing clothing. In this particular case, the woman in the store agreed with them. Sometimes I think that men just speak without even taking a second to think about how stupid they are about to sound. I don’t care how revealing a woman’s clothing is, no woman deserves to be raped, or disrespected because of what they are wearing.

Men are known for making those ignorant comments, but it really baffled me to know that there are women that agree with them. If it was their sister, mother, or their daughter being violated for what they were wearing, I am positive that they would start to see things differently. It is a shame that it takes for a person to personally go through this, or for them to have a friend or family member become a rape victim before they realize how insensitive they were being by disrespecting those women that have been hurt by these animals.

When people say that women deserve to be disrespected because of what they are wearing, they encourage this type of behavior and make it acceptable by blaming the victim. These women aren’t asking to be disrespected; they are not asking these men -not men, more like sexual predators- to rape them. We need to hold these men accountable for their actions instead of demonizing the victim who had no control over the person that chose hurt her.

I don’t expect too many men to change their ways, because for years women have been trying to show them that they should be respected regardless of how they are dressed, and they are still blaming the victims. I hope that all of the women that have started to support the nonsense that some of these men have been spewing will realize that women have been through too much throughout our history, and to tear each other down by saying that some women deserve to be violated isn't conducive to all of things that women have been fighting for and are still fighting for.

The next time that any of my readers see a woman that is wearing revealing clothing; don’t be so quick to assume that she is a whore or a slut. Some women are proud of their bodies and they love to show it off, it doesn’t mean that they should be hurt because of it. There are some women that like to rebel against what most people consider to be normal, and by wearing what they want they are showing the world that they refuse to conform to what society views as being acceptable. I used to be one of those foolish men, judging women based on their appearance. Now I know that I should never do that, and maybe, one day, the majority of men in the world will see things the way that I see them.